Feeling Blah? Improve Your Mindset with These 9 Simple Hacks

by | Jul 18, 2022 | Mindset

“Why do you need to improve your mindset? We tend to blame everyone and everything else when we don’t achieve our goals.

My parents screwed me up. I got divorced. It’s the economy. It’s the government’s fault.

We can blame others all we want but at the end of the day, the only person we can hold accountable is ourselves. Have you ever set a new year’s revolution only to quit within a few days or weeks? It’s our mindset telling us that we can’t.

We all have inner critic (ego) and inner wisdom voices inside our heads. Our critics are loud and mean and they usually have a point. The reason we listen to them is that they usually have some truth to what they are saying. The inner wisdom voice is so soft, we can only hear it when we are still.

Your wisdom is speaking to you ever so quietly giving you that gentle nudge in the direction of your dreams. If you aren’t ready to hear it, you will start to numb your thoughts with alcohol or mindless scrolling through social media or buying things you don’t need or busyness. That is right. Being busy is a way to numb ourselves so we don’t have to deal with whatever our wisdom is saying. It’s exactly the same as drinking alcohol.

If that is working out for you then congratulations! Keep going! But if it’s not, you will be pleased to know that you can change your mindset so you are in a better frame of mind so that when your inner wisdom speaks to you, you will actually be able to hear it.

1. Positive Affirmations

Practice saying positive affirmations on a daily basis as a pattern interrupter for negative thoughts. You can say them out loud or write them down in your journal.

2. Practice Gratitude

There is tons of research on the benefits of gratitude. When you appreciate what you have, you attract more of it into your life. Write down one thing every day that you are grateful for – and be specific. Don’t just say ‘my family’.

Who are you grateful for and what did they do today that you appreciate?

Gratitude allows us to celebrate the present moment. It anchors you down when things might not be going so well. There is always something to be grateful for, no matter how rough things may seem.

Download my Gratitude Journal here.

3. Meditate

Meditation is the best gift you can give yourself every day. It’s free to do, and it doesn’t take long – you can meditate for 5 mins before going to sleep or when you wake up in the morning. Most people say they are too busy, but they are the ones who need it most. I love the quote:

“Sit in nature for 20 mins a day. Unless you are too busy. Then sit for an hour”.


It applies to meditation too. If you don’t have time then really take a good look at your life and ask yourself why not.

4. Change your perspective

Anything negative that you tell yourself, is simply a story that you made up. I’m not experienced enough. I can’t do this. I’m too old. Everything I do is wrong. These are all limiting beliefs and in order to achieve your dreams, you need to kick these stories to the curb. All you have to do is change your perspective.

‘I’m not experienced’ becomes ‘I can learn’.

‘I can’t do this’ becomes ‘I can and I will’.

Catch yourself as soon as you think something negative and change your mind. It is your ego talking and it’s trying to keep you safe. But in doing so it holds you back from achieving your dreams.

5. Surround yourself with people who lift you up

Jim Rohn said we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Look around you. Is it time to find new friends?

Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up when you need it but also people with who you can be yourself around. People who will listen to your bad days but don’t let you wallow in them.

People who will call you out on your BS when you need it (in a loving and supportive way). People who won’t criticise you or belittle your dreams. Find your community.

6. Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not about them. It’s not about condoning what they have done or letting them ‘get away with it. Forgiveness is for yourself. When you forgive and let go, you give yourself permission to grow. Forgiveness means you can leave that bad energy in your past and focus on the person you want to become in the future. It is a beautiful way to honour yourself (even though it might not feel like it at the time.

7. Follow your energy

How do you feel today? Check-in with yourself. And be brutally honest. You don’t need to lie to yourself. If you feel crap, say so.

What is one thing you can do today to improve your mood? If you wake up in the morning and feel bad because your kid was away all night, or you have a project due that you are worried about – just do one thing that will help you feel better.

Get outside in nature, go to the beach, call a friend, go to your favourite coffee shop. If you can do it immediately, fantastic – do it! If not, then plan when you are doing to do it and add it to your calendar. Small things can make us feel amazing. If you woke up on the wrong side of your bed this morning, don’t let a bad mood derail your whole day.

8. Happiness comes from within

Too often we search for happiness in external things. When I get that job, I will be happy. When I earn $$ salary, then I will be happy. If you aren’t happy now, then you won’t be happy when you reach those goals either. Happiness is inside you. Find something in your day to look forward to. Take a cooking class or join a running club. Anything that is fun and exciting. Learn a new skill by signing up for an online course. Connect with others. Hang out with people who energise you (See #5). Do one thing everything that makes you happy.

9. Believe in yourself

Approve of yourself and what you are doing. You don’t need to seek approval from others. When you believe in yourself, your confidence shines and your tribe will find you.


If you want to learn more about how to improve your mindset, grab my beautifully designed Soulful Digital Mindset Journal which will show you 20 ways to build a more positive mindset and it comes with journaling prompts to guide you.

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